I have a very energetic pup that uses his mouth a lot. He is a sweet and very good-natured pup, just very enthusiastic, rambunctious and playful. He does know "settle" and does it beautifully (for a minute or two.)

You've probably all seen a dog move their hind leg in a scratching motion when you scratch their neck or ears. You're probably familiar with the other way a dog deals with an itch: by kind of nibbling at the itch with their incisors.

When I stroke certain parts of my dog's body during "calm time", sometimes he will "nibble" on my arm. He doesn't try to get away, and appears to be enjoying the physical contact, but my trainer said this is an aggressive attempt to control me, and should be strongly discouraged.

I did have a dog that would nibble my bottom, which I agree was a herding behavior. But this is on my arm and only occasionally. It seems like he's behaving as when he's biting his own itches.

Is my trainer correct? Should I immediately cease giving my dog attention when this happens? Any insights would be appreciated.

  • Could you please tell me, what is the breed or in general the heredity of your dog?
    – lila
    Apr 30, 2020 at 11:13
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    For my understanding: nibbles means with its teeth isn't it? I know this from horses: if you massage/cuddle them with power, they want to do you the same "favor" and start to rub with their teeth over parts of you (favourite hairs) Apr 30, 2020 at 11:57
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    @lila - Oh, I'm sorry! He's a Black&Tan Coonhound/Border Collie mix. (I met both parents, who were very chill.) He is past teething by months. Apr 30, 2020 at 15:14
  • @anongoodnurse I included a minor update in my answer regarding the additional information provided by you, thanks for the kind words! But at the same time I feel like I could have missed a few obvious things and I could name at least a few people on this site who I'm sure would be able to give more specialized and even wiser answer.
    – lila
    Apr 30, 2020 at 15:58

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My answer is not meant to be final nor definitive and I am not really experienced with dogs, not at all, but I feel like I could help with some insight. I definitely want to attempt expanding it if you could provide additional details.

It's a bit difficult to guess accurately whether your dog's trainer is right or wrong with their diagnosis as of the reason for nibbling. But generally their suggestion of discouraging this behavior is in my opinion correct and I could empathize with it, because such nibbling could be seen as somewhat a sign of the puppy having a bit of bad manners - or, depending on how hard and intrusive does he nibble, maybe not even that bad - but nonetheless a bit crude and unrefined. I could see how that could be seen as undesirable, even if it's devoid of malicious intentions and not challenging your dominance - but anyway they got concerned this behavior could be susceptible to being misinterpreted by puppy's playmates (either dogs or people) and escalate to aggression or just a general distaste towards him.

It's natural and common for puppies to be chewy and mouthy and it's their way of interacting with the world, but I guess your dog's trainer has got somewhat alarmed about the potential antisocial outcomes of continuing to allow your dog's behavior, even if they didn't get the exact reason right.

But nonetheless - yes, I could as well believe your puppy's behavior to be just a form of reciprocal grooming and it would make sense to me. I've recently read a really wise explanation on this site, I can't recall the author right now, but in essence they said that the mouth is what puppy has the closest to having a hand, so that's exactly how it could interact with the environment.

I asked in the comments about teething because that would additionally encourage chewing-related behaviors. But puppies are chewy anyway, teething or not, and as I am thinking longer about it I think it wouldn't be the sole explanation even if the puppy wasn't to have had his teething finished months ago, because as you clearly mentioned his behavior is in response to your grooming/petting - and teething would in contrast cause constant agitation and discomfort in that context, leading to overall increased chewiness and mouthiness unrelated to a single stimulus like grooming.

And I asked about the breed just to google out of curiosity and check whether the breeds are known for some behavioral quirks that could give me some clue, but there weren't any to be found.

In conclusion, if I were you I'd generally trust the professional if they advised me to discourage this behavior.

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    This is a very kind and wise answer wit which I agree. Thanks! Apr 30, 2020 at 15:11
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    Thanks for the update; again, you're very kind in the way you frame your thoughts on the matter. I think it's a reciprocal grooming thing, but you're right that regardless, it needs to be discouraged. May 1, 2020 at 17:21

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