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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?

As in human cases of abuse, if you genuinely want to repair the relationship, the first and most essential thing to accept is you may not be able to. Especially with a young kitten, it's entirely ...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?

Honestly, it sounds as though you shouldn't have a cat right now. There is never any excuse to needlessly hurt an animal and, whilst your critical write-up of your own behaviour is a start, it ...
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How do I "apologise" to my cat?

I wouldn’t start giving treats for small accidents - what kind of behavior are you trying to reinforce? The cat won’t understand the concept of an “apology” via treats. And if careless weaving results ...
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Why does my cat lay down with me whenever I need to or I’m about to get up? Is this a common thing?

Probably confirmation bias. Odds are, the cat is not lying down next to you every time you're about to get up. There are times when you get up without the cat lying down next to you, and time when the ...
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How do I "apologise" to my cat?

I don't think there are many animals that understand the concept of apology, as a high level concept as such, except for maybe some other advanced primates. MAYBE elephants, dolphins, whales or ...
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My old cat died and I don't know how to deal with it

Loss of a pet, for some people can be no different than losing a family member. The effect may be more intensely felt by children and teenagers compared to adults. Therefore, grieving after a pet is ...
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How to stop adopted stray/feral cat from scratching trees?

Wouldn't it be a better solution to protect the trees from the cat than to remove the cat from the family? First of all, it's impossible to teach a cat not to scratch on anything. The claws of cats ...
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Active wildlife outside the window- Good or Bad for Cat psychology?

I've heard pet owners express concern before that cats get frustrated at being unable to catch prey, but the thing is, they should be able to deal with the frustration because it's natural to be ...
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How long is a cat's memory?

Cats do remember places and people, although where/who they remember, and for how long, is variable (just like humans). There's been some research on feline short-term memory, but I could find less ...
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What does this cat want from me when meowing accusingly?

Odds are, the cat's as wary of you as you are of her. She wants to know if she can trust you. These cautious approaches are very typical, and you're handling it very well. As she starts to get more ...
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What can I do now that my cat is terrified of me after I broke up a fight involving her and two other pets?

This is a very common question on this SE and it makes perfect sense. The cat for some reason is traumatised by your action. You might have stepped on his tail, or she might just be upset because you ...
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What does this cat want from me when meowing accusingly?

Try following her. My cat will sometimes meow incessantly until I get up and follow her to a dirty litter box, empty water bowl, or a closed door.
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Can a cat, who only lives in a (small) flat, be happy?

We have a few existing posts about how much space a cat needs, I have included some below. Your area is large enough for a cat. But even a larger space will not be sufficient without enough enrichment,...
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Cat associates closed door with getting caught

You need to break the existing conditioning your cat has at the moment. The classic approach would be to close the door and immediately open it again. Then slowly increase the time that the cat will ...
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Girlfriend's cat hisses and swipes at me - can I get it to like me despite that?

Use less threatening body language. While it sounds like you've come to this conclusion on your own, I reiterate this point to write a more general answer. In cat body language, staring down a cat is ...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?

I've been very close to a situation very similar to this, where a person spiralled really (=very physically abusively) badly with a new pet, came to their senses and felt horrified after a few months,...
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Can two cats live in one room?

You have a cat, you both are going to be working more and you have an allergic roommate? I'm sorry, but are you sure it's a good idea to get a second cat? I understand it looks like choosing between ...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?

The cat is still young and learning. You want to unteach it that moving and making sounds are potentially dangerous by encouraging the behaviours you want. Ideally there's a type of food it likes, ...
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Cat associates closed door with getting caught

Our cat was not thrilled to go into the box either (it was less severe than you, though). As soon as she felt that something was wrong she would run for her life under the bed and good luck getting ...
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What can I do now that my cat is terrified of me after I broke up a fight involving her and two other pets?

My girlfriend is a veterinary nurse and this is a situation she has seen and we've discussed it on several occasions. All animals are always on the lookout for danger. Even the most domesticated pets ...
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How best to discipline a kitten?

Punishing him by locking him in a cage is NOT the answer. In fact, punishment when it comes to litter-training issues in general is counterproductive, but locking the poor mite in a cage is just plain ...
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How can I get my cat to stop pooping on my kid's bed?

Your cat is not jealous of the new child. Your cat is stressed out. Most cats like calm, quiet, routine, and for their territory to not be disrupted. Unfortunately, with a new baby, all those things ...
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What should I do if my dog fails a cycle of her separation training?

I'm sorry to tell you that, but your approach is wrong. That's not how you train separation and independence with your dog. What you currently do is training a command. You say a specific word, your ...
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Can two cats live in one room?

It’s a difficult question; neither choice is clearly right or wrong. I would lean toward getting him a friend now, and the same age or younger. The smaller the newcomer, the less your existing cat ...
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Husky howling repeatedly - what can be done for it?

Let me sing to you the song of my people! Almost every Husky ever Huskies are very, very social dogs, even more so than many other breeds. They don't like being alone and they'll notice if something ...
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Why is my dog so afraid of me?

I think this might be a hard one to solve without seeing the behavior and interaction. However there are a few things you might be able to do to try to narrow down the cause and help him work ...
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Is it normal for a cat to go out and go back home voluntarily?

Cats always return "voluntarily". Dogs return home (or, more usually stay home), because they want to belong to a pack and they stay with their pack (e.g. owners, potentially other dogs and pets, etc....
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Why do my cats play "soccer" with their dry food on the floor?

It's just their play/hunt instinct kicking in. The piece of food might have dropped outside the bowl, cat uses a paw to get it free (to take it), then notices "omgosh! it's moving!" and starts to "...
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