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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?
As in human cases of abuse, if you genuinely want to repair the relationship, the first and most essential thing to accept is you may not be able to. Especially with a young kitten, it's entirely ...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?
Honestly, it sounds as though you shouldn't have a cat right now. There is never any excuse to needlessly hurt an animal and, whilst your critical write-up of your own behaviour is a start, it ...
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My cat gets angry and scared at me if I stand
Your cat may be interpreting your standing up as an aggressive posture, as cats will arch themselves up to make themselves as tall as possible when they're being scared or aggressive. Or, it may be ...
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My new cat won't stop meowing
This is unfortunate, but nothing to worry about.
Of course the new surroundings and new people scare him at first. If the cat was taken from his own family (his parents or siblings), he might be ...
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What can I do now that my cat is terrified of me after I broke up a fight involving her and two other pets?
This is a very common question on this SE and it makes perfect sense.
The cat for some reason is traumatised by your action. You might have stepped on his tail, or she might just be upset because you ...
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My cat gets angry and scared at me if I stand
Do your cat a favor and get her spayed. It will definitely help stop her from feeling so nervous and jumpy. Was she feral? That could contribute to the fear, as would abandonment. If a human abused ...
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Cat associates closed door with getting caught
You need to break the existing conditioning your cat has at the moment. The classic approach would be to close the door and immediately open it again. Then slowly increase the time that the cat will ...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?
I've been very close to a situation very similar to this, where a person spiralled really (=very physically abusively) badly with a new pet, came to their senses and felt horrified after a few months,...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?
The cat is still young and learning. You want to unteach it that moving and making sounds are potentially dangerous by encouraging the behaviours you want.
Ideally there's a type of food it likes, ...
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Cat associates closed door with getting caught
Our cat was not thrilled to go into the box either (it was less severe than you, though). As soon as she felt that something was wrong she would run for her life under the bed and good luck getting ...
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What can I do now that my cat is terrified of me after I broke up a fight involving her and two other pets?
My girlfriend is a veterinary nurse and this is a situation she has seen and we've discussed it on several occasions.
All animals are always on the lookout for danger. Even the most domesticated pets ...
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I accidentally kicked my puppy in the mouth, help me please
These things ... happen, especially with puppies and smaller dogs.
The good news is it's probably fine. He's acting normal, and there's no real lasting damage from what you said. He probably was ...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?
Unfortunately, from OP's description of his/her behaviors toward the kitten even AFTER the awareness and realization of the wrongness and abusiveness of her/his treatment toward the kitten, i.e., ...
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Husband stepped on the cat's head, and now she hates him
Please don't get offended, but reading your description I think that your husband's actions and attitude towards the cat are bordering animal abuse and reek of aggressive frustration. I think the best ...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?
We have four cats that all have different personalities (like people). Sometimes one or more can be frustrating, but cats (although some would argue) are not capable of the same level of learning or ...
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How to care for scared cat?
Initial shyness is normal.
Cats often rely on knowing their environment. Bringing them to a new environment will have them on edge until they find their bearings.
But more importantly, cats are ...
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Cat spooked of a balloon, he is traumatized and I’m at a loss
First of all, if your cat is still not drinking, eating, or going to the litterbox, take it back to the vet. Not doing these things for so long is very serious.
Unless your cat is normally very ...
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My cat gets angry and scared at me if I stand
We had a cat when I was younger that my dad accidentally stepped on when she was a kitten and resulted in some trauma. She fully recovered and became a total sweetheart, and actually lived to be quite ...
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Made my cat scared of me, need help
Ok, this might take a while to fix, but it is fixable.
First things first, when the cat shows fear like that it's going to be essential to signal that you are not a danger, then leave her completely ...
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How can I get my cat to stop chasing my other cat?
You need to establish a pecking order, one where you are at the top. Your cats need to abide by your rules, and that includes not picking on each other. Even if they cannot stand each other, they need ...
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Cat hates me, but likes my kids
First and foremost: You cannot force trust, you can only earn it. Saying that you "would like her to be more comfortable around all of us" easily translates to "I want to have a closer ...
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My new cat won't stop meowing
New cats require patience. Especially a year-old cat - at this age they will have recently bonded quite strongly with whomever their previous owners were so they will need time to adjust and to warm ...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?
Most people would say you're on your way to being a psychopath, but I can tell you you're not, because of the compassion you display, remorse even; true psychos do not display such qualms. You have an ...
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Husband stepped on the cat's head, and now she hates him
Ana, I'm going to make a bold statement, but cats do not have "night terrors".
If you've seen her going into a spasm, shaking uncontrollably and peeing and/or pooing herself, then your cat is almost ...
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First time owning a cat
There are many things you can try to solve your problem. The easiest of which is as follows:
Find a small room in your house, where you go often, that has a door. Such as a bedroom. Take all the ...
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How cats differentiate between cars and animals? They are not afraid of cars but are afraid of large animals
How cats differentiate between cars and animals?
How do you differentiate between them? I'm not talking about knowing that cars exist, but rather visually distinguishing whether a specific object is ...
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