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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?

As in human cases of abuse, if you genuinely want to repair the relationship, the first and most essential thing to accept is you may not be able to. Especially with a young kitten, it's entirely ...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?

Honestly, it sounds as though you shouldn't have a cat right now. There is never any excuse to needlessly hurt an animal and, whilst your critical write-up of your own behaviour is a start, it ...
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My cat gets angry and scared at me if I stand

Your cat may be interpreting your standing up as an aggressive posture, as cats will arch themselves up to make themselves as tall as possible when they're being scared or aggressive. Or, it may be ...
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My new cat won't stop meowing

This is unfortunate, but nothing to worry about. Of course the new surroundings and new people scare him at first. If the cat was taken from his own family (his parents or siblings), he might be ...
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What can I do now that my cat is terrified of me after I broke up a fight involving her and two other pets?

This is a very common question on this SE and it makes perfect sense. The cat for some reason is traumatised by your action. You might have stepped on his tail, or she might just be upset because you ...
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How can I get my cat to not be afraid of me?

It will take time. I don't know how for how long you have owned her now, but from my experience, the relationship can take long to establish itself. To create this bond you are looking for, don't ...
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My cat gets angry and scared at me if I stand

Do your cat a favor and get her spayed. It will definitely help stop her from feeling so nervous and jumpy. Was she feral? That could contribute to the fear, as would abandonment. If a human abused ...
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Cat associates closed door with getting caught

You need to break the existing conditioning your cat has at the moment. The classic approach would be to close the door and immediately open it again. Then slowly increase the time that the cat will ...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?

I've been very close to a situation very similar to this, where a person spiralled really (=very physically abusively) badly with a new pet, came to their senses and felt horrified after a few months,...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?

The cat is still young and learning. You want to unteach it that moving and making sounds are potentially dangerous by encouraging the behaviours you want. Ideally there's a type of food it likes, ...
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Cat associates closed door with getting caught

Our cat was not thrilled to go into the box either (it was less severe than you, though). As soon as she felt that something was wrong she would run for her life under the bed and good luck getting ...
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What can I do now that my cat is terrified of me after I broke up a fight involving her and two other pets?

My girlfriend is a veterinary nurse and this is a situation she has seen and we've discussed it on several occasions. All animals are always on the lookout for danger. Even the most domesticated pets ...
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How can I keep my cat from being scared any time he sees or hears a person?

Here are some suggestions that may help: When he runs, don't pursue him. Your pursuit reinforces his behaviour. Don't disturb him when he's hiding. Put a cardboard box or something else he can hide ...
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How can I get my cat to not be afraid of me?

We recently got an 8 month old cat from a breeder, it had lived its live in a cage with the rest of the litter up to that point. Unless the breeder spent the proper effort to socialize the cat with a ...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?

Unfortunately, from OP's description of his/her behaviors toward the kitten even AFTER the awareness and realization of the wrongness and abusiveness of her/his treatment toward the kitten, i.e., ...
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Husband stepped on the cat's head, and now she hates him

Please don't get offended, but reading your description I think that your husband's actions and attitude towards the cat are bordering animal abuse and reek of aggressive frustration. I think the best ...
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Husband stepped on the cat's head, and now she hates him

I don't know enough about cats to give an answer to how and if the relationship between the cat and husband can be repaired. But one thing got me to react: Every time he gives her a bath now her ...
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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?

We have four cats that all have different personalities (like people). Sometimes one or more can be frustrating, but cats (although some would argue) are not capable of the same level of learning or ...
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I accidentally kicked my puppy in the mouth, help me please

These things ... happen, especially with puppies and smaller dogs. The good news is its probably fine. He's acting normal, and there's no real lasting damage from what you said. He probably was ...
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How to care for scared cat?

Initial shyness is normal. Cats often rely on knowing their environment. Bringing them to a new environment will have them on edge until they find their bearings. But more importantly, cats are ...
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Cat spooked of a balloon, he is traumatized and I’m at a loss

First of all, if your cat is still not drinking, eating, or going to the litterbox, take it back to the vet. Not doing these things for so long is very serious. Unless your cat is normally very ...
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My cat gets angry and scared at me if I stand

We had a cat when I was younger that my dad accidentally stepped on when she was a kitten and resulted in some trauma. She fully recovered and became a total sweetheart, and actually lived to be quite ...
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My new cat won't stop meowing

New cats require patience. Especially a year-old cat - at this age they will have recently bonded quite strongly with whomever their previous owners were so they will need time to adjust and to warm ...
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How can I get my cat to stop chasing my other cat?

You need to establish a pecking order, one where you are at the top. Your cats need to abide by your rules, and that includes not picking on each other. Even if they cannot stand each other, they need ...
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Made my cat scared of me, need help

Ok, this might take a while to fix, but it is fixable. First things first, when the cat shows fear like that it's going to be essential to signal that you are not a danger, then leave her completely ...
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How can I keep my cat from being scared any time he sees or hears a person?

I like the answer above. But part of it is missing the point which is the cat's fear of strangers. You need to begin making strangers a positive association. You can do this by having the stranger ...
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My cat does not recognize me

Cats have long memories, so I'm sure it does still recognise you. My guess is that it was upset that you were gone, and has associated that unhappiness with you. It may not seem entirely logical, but ...
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