I have a cat that seems to get upset every time I joke about giving him away. He won't even get near me and he won't let me carry him.

Do they, like, read our body languages or something?

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Caveat: this is all based on my experience with cats.

They can learn to associate certain sounds (words) with particular concepts. My cats know what the words "feed the cats" mean. It's hard to say what their effective vocabulary is, but they do understand some words.

They are also very sensitive to tone of voice and body language - given how much of a cat's communication occurs via body language this is hardly surprising. Every cat I've lived with knew when it was being teased or laughed at, and all of them hated it (I think this is why people say cats are "proud" - they really do not like being teased or laughed at).

If I had to guess, I'd say that your cat recognizes from your body language and tone that

  1. You're speaking to/about him; and
  2. You're teasing him.

He doesn't like it.

(Oh, all the cats I've had figured out fairly quickly that "I'm sorry" means I'm trying to make up with them. I don't know how that translates to communications and mental states, but actually saying "I'm sorry" will get me forgiven (they stop avoiding me or shunning me) by the cat I offended faster than not saying it).

  • I really have a hard time believing animals have a concept of grudges. I feel like they live moment to moment, based of learned responses and I don't believe they have the mental capacity to track grudges like that. Maybe that sometimes you scold them for something, but not whether you're sorry. Commented Jul 18, 2014 at 16:13
  • @TankorSmash - cats certainly get upset for a period of time and mine have always recognized a "conciliation" action. They will forget/forgive pretty quickly (several hours to a day or so, depending on the cat) if I don't apologize, but they're a lot quicker when I do. I don't pretend to know what's going on in their minds when they do this.
    – Kate Paulk
    Commented Jul 18, 2014 at 16:17
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    What we would call a grudge is just a matter of memory. This doesn't take a lot of mental capacity. Cats have excellent memory, and if they associate something with a remembered bad thing, they react again. For example, cats hide when the carrier comes out, because the last time, you got in the car (bad) and went to the vet (more bad).
    – Oldcat
    Commented Jul 18, 2014 at 17:26

This is all based on my personal experiences with pets as well...

I'm off at college now but I have a couple of cats at my parents house that are "mine." They've shown to at least know when we are talking about them, and whether it's positive or negative. There was an incident when one of the cats had some, well, distressed anal glands, and he still gets visibly upset when we joke about that and call him "big pus butt"

On the note of dogs, Mine also show some indication that they know a bit of what we are talking about. I have a shepardy-mutt thing that doesn't like to be called "fat" (even in a loving voice) and a boarder collie that got embarrassed recently when I was recounting a story about her having poop stuck in her fur over the phone.

While it's not hard evidence, it is probably safe to say some pets have an idea when we are talking about them, and can probably deduce the tone. It'd be an interesting thing to study!

Interesting note, just as Kate Paulk said, "I'm sorry" gets me forgiven with my cats too, whether I stepped on them or offended them some other way. I think this may be based on body language primarily (and perhaps the words after they learn them?) as I either pick them up/pet them (if I stepped on them) or act guilty/put my head next to them where they're sitting (in the case I offended them)

  • Tone of voice and body language all together
    – Oldcat
    Commented Jul 18, 2014 at 17:27

No... they have not even the vaguest clue what you're talking about. They do not understand words and don't even want to try to understand words.

They do get sounds, tone of voice, body language. If you make consistent sounds and signals for some things they will learn those.

But you could say horrible things about them in a nice tone of voice and they would take it in a happy way. Likewise you could say nice things in a bad tone of voice and they would take it negatively.

This doesn't mean they can't learn or don't get concepts... just they have no interest in our language. One of my cats just made a territorial incursion (the basement is exclusively for my first two cats, the rest of the house is shared but the basement is "theirs") without too much signaling on my part I got her to leave quickly (without yelling, harsh tones, or any of that).

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