I went my entire life never having a cat, so it was quite the leap for me when my wife presented the idea of adopting two kittens from a foster. I reluctantly agreed at the time but almost immediately I fell head over heels in love with them both. My only regret is going my whole life up until this point never having known this. I am now a cat person.
They are sweet and affectionate with me and multiple times a day will come to my lap to snuggle and purr. My wife who adores them as well, is not so fortunate. They almost never want affection from her and even if they are comfortable, her petting them will usually result in them getting up and moving a few feet away. It breaks her heart, and it breaks mine that they are rather ambivalent to her.
I feel so unbelievably guilty to give them affection around my wife. She plays with them, and spends time with them and they give her joy, but I can see that sadness too. I want her to know this joy and was wondering if I were to stop petting and giving them affection, if they might start favoring her? It would break my heart but it is a sacrifice I would be willing to make for her, as long as it has a reasonable chance of working.