I need help. I got a kitten long three years ago and raised her. It was not a good time in life and I had never raised a kitten. I'm not sure if it was considered abuse or not, but I considered how I treated her to be bad enough to call it such. I would smack her in the head, the butt, scream at her, hold her by the scruff, etc. Nothing to cause blood, but definitely mental issues I'm sure. This was within the first year, and we were no longer in that bad area. Someone was sick that was in the home and they passed.
Fast forward, three years later, we have moved and there are signs where I know she is happy. She loves to lay on my lap, ill wake up with her beside me, and she always wants to be around me. However, she seems to also have massive anxiety and randomly swats at my other cat quite a bit to where I'll find scratches on #2s head. Now, I also had this cat before I got her, and #2 is perfectly fine. Throughout the years, small signs showed that she was territorial, so I figured a big place would be better after moving, but unfortunately, has gotten worse.
There are so many factors that come into play, and I don't know what would be best. I want to do my hardest to work with her, I don't want to get rid of her. However, I am also willing to do whatever I need to for her to have a happy life.
I have tried Feliway diffusers, sprays, the collars (on both), and even hemp. Nothing has worked at all for her. Separated food bowls, two water dishes(although they are still fairly close to each other), multiple litter boxes.
I do only have one tree for her at this moment, and am not sure if another perch would help her feel better. If there is also any recommendations on good toys that would keep her busy throughout the day that would be wonderful too.
Thank you in advance.