Me and my girlfriend got our puppy (German Pinscher) 4 weeks ago. Everything went on fine so far, he is quite an energetic comrade, but we try to give him as much rest as possible. Sometimes, it is necessary to calm him down by holding him closely wrapped into a blanket. We only do this if we know he is well beyond the point of being able to settle himself. If we do so, he relaxes within minutes and falls asleep for 2 or 3 hours. We know from many others that it is quite normal for a pup to find it hard to calm down.

Well, in the past week, things got a bit(e) more problematic. Sometimes, our pup becomes very angry. Even for minor reasons, things could potentially escalate. He then goes into a fighting position, trying to bite and gain ground offensively. In the beginning, bites were still kind of not so strong, but it keeps getting worse. What we do at the moment is as soon as he does that, we turn away, fully ignore him, sometimes even leave the room to show him that the pack does not like his behavior. This helps to calm him for a minute, but he would switch back to aggression mode easily.

We have already tried the standard advices like really short walks, not too much training, remaining calm and relaxed ourselves... But it feels like we reached the point where we cannot just ignore his aggression.

We strongly believe that this is (at least partly) a lack of socialization. Unfortunately, Germany is in Lockdown at the moment and there are no puppy groups happening, not even in the near future.

Do you have any advice on how to cool our little friend down a bit, or how to get at least some sort of socialization going? We already read through the similar questions, but they were of no help.

  • For your problem with not finding a puppy-group: you will not be the only one with this problem. As long as you hold the distance and wear a mask, nothing honders you to let your puppy meet another one. Look at some forums or town-community sites. Maybe there is a dog-playground near you, then you could visit it regularly to find friends for your puppy. Even another (friendly) grown up dog would help to socialize your puppy! Perfect would be a space with a fence (garden, dog playground), so your dogs could freely roam and get in contact. As Elmy wrote: your dog will grow bigger and it will... Commented Feb 8, 2021 at 7:54
  • more and more difficult for you to solve problems with body-power alone. The dog needs training and you both (dog and human) need to learn the communication of each other, to solve problems before "fighting" starts :) And welcome to pets.SE :) Commented Feb 8, 2021 at 7:55

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This problem is more severe than you probably realize. You puppy is in a phase of life than will influence his personality and future behavior more than anything else. If you let him get his will by being aggressive, he will continue doing so as he grows older.

First of all, you must not, under any circumstances, cause him pain or harm. That only teaches him that he must fight harder and more aggressively to gain his goals.

Step 1: understand his body language

I strongly advise you to learn about the body language of dogs and the signs of aggression. Those signs can be as diverse as lifting a paw, yawning, licking his lips in a certain way or avoiding eye contact with something he doesn't like. This is a small collection of Youtube videos I found very informative, but you can find many more of those.

Step 2: identify his triggers

For this you need to understand his body language first. Try noticing changes in his behavior before he starts biting you. I guarantee you that he gives you several signs before that, you just always ignored them because you didn't understand them.

What triggers his aggression? Being touched in a certain way? Having you approach his food or his toys? Wrapping him up in blanket? (I honestly doubt that he likes it. Please try a different way of calming him down.)

Guarding behavior is common in dogs and requires special training. If you suspect your dog is aggressive because he guards his property, please search for "food guarding" or "toy guarding" to learn what to do.

Step 3: train him

You write that you've got the dog 4 weeks ago. He doesn't need "as much rest as possible". He needs walks and play time and obedience training. He needed all that 2 weeks ago already!

Immediately start daily obedience trainings with him. The least you need to teach him is "come", "sit" and "no". Teaching him "stay" greatly improves his character by teaching him that impatience doesn't pay off. Doing "target training" with him, where he needs to touch your hand or another target object, can help in situations where you need him to move a certain way, like at the vet.

Don't make the mistake of thinking obedience training is boring and a hardship for your dog. It feels actually very good for him to be praised by you and it strengthens his bond to you.

His aggression can also be an expression of his boredom and need for exercise. Young puppies - just like children - have an enormous amount of energy and need to burn a big part of it every day. Locking a dog inside and giving him nothing but a half-hour walk and "as much rest as possible" is a surefire way to have a dog that destroys your entire furniture out of boredom. Instead, you should play little games with him a few times each day or let him work for his food by feeding him with a puzzle feeder. Please have a look at this list of ideas.

Step 4: punish his aggression

I'll repeat myself: You must not cause your dog pain or he only learns to bite harder to avoid the pain. If you only employ these methods without offering enough training and play to your dog, you won't really get rid of his aggression. You'll only teach him to hide his warning signs and ambush you instead.

The first thing you should do when you notice his warning sings is to stop doing what you're doing. Your dog clearly tells you that he doesn't like it. If those things he doesn't like are things like being pet, hugged or wrapped in a blanked, you need to accept his wish and stop it.

If that doesn't help, you should cause him negative consequences that are not painful.

A tried method is a water squirting bottle. When your dogs body language exceeds a certain level of aggression, you squirt water at him. Of course this is only practical outsides.

An alternative is putting a few screws, nuts or washers into an empty and dry 0.5 liter bottle and screwing the lid back on. When your dog gets too aggressive, you throw the bottle at the ground close to him, but not directly at him. The rattling of the bottle is a strong acoustic signal and snaps your dog out of the aggression.


I am writing this with a good amount of time after we encountered the described problem. Our dog has grown to a really friendly pet. Elmy's advices were indeed helpful. We were already doing obedience training, which worked well. There is one thing we would like to add, note because it solves the problem, but it can be of significant help for others who are in the same situation.

Our problems had disappeared after like 3 weeks. Another month later, we started meeting a dog coach (1 to 1). Well, precisely, he was more of a human coach, because most of the time, he was not teaching our dog, but us. Makes sense... We described the problem to him (which by that time was already gone), and his reaction was quite simple: If your puppy starts acting aggressively, stop whatever you're doing, leave the room, let him/her cry. Only return after the tantrum is over, and clearly look out for the reaction. If there is any sign of still being mad, immediately leave again. The reason is simple: It is the same reaction his/her brothers and sisters would show if the aggression would target them. (This actually worked wonders for us in other scenarios later on)

The most important advice from our coach was: Stay calm and collected. In the early weeks of development, things go so quickly, it is not only challenging for us, but for the dog as well. His words were pretty much like that: "During that age, I start being concerned about any negative behavior which lasts more than four weeks." In fact, we did not do anything special (other than the things we already did), and within 2 days, this behavior was suddenly gone. Why is this information important? Well, because the people that should be calm and positive in the first place are the owners of the puppy. If I had to talk to ourselves face to face and give us an advice, it would be simple: "Relax, laugh about it, and if your puppy crosses a red line, just leave. Let them cry. Take a deep breath, if you're relaxed and calm, this is way more helpful for the young rambo than anything else."

Our puppy is a grown dog today. Thanks to some good advice (shout-out to Elmy as well), he is a dream of a pet, with no biting issues whatsoever.

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    Hi and thank you so much for writing down your own experiences and the advice given by the coach. This will surely help other people with similar problems in the future.
    – Elmy
    Commented Jul 26, 2022 at 17:13

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