I got my first kitten around a month ago. She keeps biting and scratching my blankets, and attacking them with her hind legs. I've tried rewarding her when she uses her own toys or her scratching post, as well as dedicate around 2-3 hours a day to playing with her, but it won't stop. I've resorted now to putting her from the bed to the floor after she does this, as well as firmly say "no." When I first got her at 4 months, she was calmer, still active but not as much. This has been a development for the past 3 weeks. She also has plenty of toys around.
In addition to all this, she has issues cleaning herself after pooping. She's a short haired cat, but will have crusty poop around her butthole, and if she steps in it, won't clean herself. If I try to follow up with a warm cloth, or baby wipe, she yelps and runs away.
Her mother abandoned her and her siblings, and I adopted her from a family that took them all in, and raised them.
She's currently unspayed, but will be spayed in 2 weeks since she's currently in heat. Will this behavior (the aggressive playing and destroying) lessen/go away after she recovers from being spayed?
I got a second cat (2 months) a week after getting her, but the second cat was not compatible with her at all, and would completely exclude the 5 month old from everything and they'd constantly fight, I had to give her back due to how aggressive the fights got between the two.
I'm extremely frustrated, sleep deprived, and don't know what to do anymore.