While I was away, my husband gave my cat a bath and accidentally stepped on her head hard. She swelled up pretty bad, but she recovered.
Every time he gives her a bath now, her head swells.
But besides that, she hates him. With a passion. Whenever he is home, she hides. The only time she comes out is when he is not home or sleeping.
He hates when she hides from him, so he has tried blocking all of her hiding spots.
Her behavior has become more self destructive because of this. She hid in the wall and it took some time and a lot of force to get her out.
Is there a way to mend their relationship or is it a lost cause? She has bonded with me and is normally quite fond of me, but she never had a chance to bond with him.
To clarify from the comments:
She is only bathed when she pees or poops on herself. She has night terrors and pees the bed sometimes. I keep telling him she needs a safe place to hide, but he argues that our other cat doesn't feel the need to hide.
If he was to try and repair their relationship where could he start?
She will roam around and is quite social when he is gone or asleep. She is so sweet and lovable.
She is just terrified. I feel bad that I can see this wonderful side of her, but all he gets to see is fear and pain.