Typical meowing and scratching at door after I adopted her. I didn't want her in there because I tried it the first night and she stepped on my face at like 3 AM. Sleep is sacred.

It's been several weeks (past long enough according to most websites) and I have been steady in my resolve. Haven't acknowledged her (very insistent) meowing or scratching whether it's outside my closed bedroom door or outside my closed bathroom door. I wait for her to stop meowing before coming out so she doesn't get rewarded.

I eventually put tinfoil on the bedroom door. Helped a bit at first but now she's just clawing at that, which is even louder and making a mess. One night while I was showering, she reached under the door and pulled most of my clothes (strewn on the floor) under the door and out into the hallway.

She used to eat all her wet food right away in one go each morning. Now after I open the bedroom door, go out and give her wet food, she will leave wet food in the bowl and follow me about my morning routine. I think she is anxious that I will shut myself away from her again.

The behavior improves slightly when I play with her for awhile and then feed her immediately before bed, but there has never been a night without some meowing and scratching. And my schedule is variable, so while I aim to do these things, it is not feasible for me to have to follow that exact routine every night right before bed. Sometimes it needs to be earlier in the evening, or sometimes I don't have time to play.

It could be territorial. One time after shutting myself in the bathroom for some time, she immediately ran inside after and rubbed her chin all over the door before coming back out. This despite the fact that I was outside the bathroom at this point.

She doesn't seem distressed when I leave for work in the morning, nor when I come back from work. She will greet me right away, but isn't needy or anxious seeming during those times.

I really don't want to stress her out, and it seems that the "ignoring" method is not working. Should I leave the door open and just place her on the floor if she steps on my face at night? This method has seemed to work when she wants to sit on my laptop or notebook while I am working. After being physically removed a few times, she'll settle for curling up on the nearest piece of furniture.

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  • No. I have seen that question. That question is about training the cat to stay out of the room. I'm asking whether I should be doing that in the first place. If I was sure locking her out of the room was okay for her, then I'd get some earplugs and wait it out, no harm done. As I have clearly stated in the question, I am concerned that my cat is becoming anxious due to being locked out and is not responding in a normal or healthy way. – ribs2spare Mar 3 at 18:52
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    Actually, this question that you've answered is much more helpful (as well as this one that specifically addresses separation anxiety), and I've only now just seen it. I might try having her in the room with me. What if she needs the litterbox? Is it wise to lock her in? – ribs2spare Mar 3 at 18:53
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    I keep a litterbox in the bedroom; properly maintained, it's not going to be a stinky mess that will make the bedroom unpleasant (and by putting it there instead of "out of sight, out of mind" it'll make you more diligent in proper maintenance). Mine get that, water, and a few quiet toys, and spend most of the night on my bed asleep. – Allison C Mar 3 at 19:08
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    The cat might just miss you during the night. It might want some social interaction. Especially since you have just adopted her? – Totumus Maximus Mar 4 at 12:46

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