There's this cat in the neighborhood which doesn't have an owner, and I suspect she has never had one since she's very cautious and doesn't get very close.

I left her food sometimes: lately for about a week, she is coming around meowing continuously. My first guess was that she is hungry, but she doesn't eat or drink; and even if she does, that doesn't keep her from meowing again. She even waits for me to leave the house and follows me meowing. Don't get me wrong, that doesn't bother me: I just feel that she wants something and I can't understand her.

What is she asking me for?

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    That definitely sounds like the cat is probably a stray (has lived with humans before) rather than feral (never had an owner). Truly feral cats rarely meow or voluntarily approach humans (except possibly to seek food, if they're used to being fed by humans). See e.g. this page for more on how to tell the difference. Commented Nov 17, 2017 at 18:03
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    You're on the verge of owing a cat. She's asking you if that's what you want after already having come clean about being a picky eater.
    – Mazura
    Commented Nov 18, 2017 at 5:15
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    @Mazura The OP's definitely at risk of becoming 'staff'.
    – Mick
    Commented Nov 18, 2017 at 6:21
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    There is, of course, the possibility that the cat is pregnant, and is looking for somewhere safe to have her kittens.
    – Mick
    Commented Nov 18, 2017 at 11:30
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    She is asking to be taken to the vets and be spayed so that she cannot be impregnated and bring up feral kittens/cats. ;-) Joking aside, if you are convinced that she is ownerless, this may be a wise thing to consider. Some charities will cover the vet bill (and some vets will provide the service for free) to ensure that feral cats do not continue to breed and cause a bigger issue. Sorry if this answer offends, but I can assure you it was not meant to. Feral cats can be significant public health and safety issue in some countries.
    – Kitebuggy
    Commented Nov 18, 2017 at 16:31

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If she's not satisfied with food/drink it may be that she is actually seeking nothing more than attention. Adult cats don't meow to each other (in cat-world it's only used to communicate between mothers and kittens) so she's definitely trying to say something to you. As to what, well that's a bit harder to be sure on (sadly there's no cat-translator yet) as a rough meow-vocabulary usually develops between a cat and it's slave-human.

In general terms though you can get a rough idea from the pitch and duration of the meow:

  • One or two short meows = A standard "greeting" meow, the cat equivalent of "Hi"

  • Multiple meows, especially if accompanied by a vertical tail = Excited greeting. e.g. “Great to see You!” often there's a subtext of "Have you got any food handy?" Or "Give me some fuss" as well.

  • Mid-pitch meow = Polite request for something, “I'd like to eat.” or "Play with me" or "Fuss me!"

  • Longer, more drawn-out mrrroooow = Demand for something, often an escalation of the "Polite Request" e.g. “Open the door. NOW.” or "Feed me puny Human!"

  • Low-pitch MRRRooooowww = Complaint of a wrong you have done. e.g. “You still haven't fed me!” or "The litter tray is full of poop and I need to go" or "You're ignoring me and it's making me cross!" etc.

  • High-pitched, relatively loud RRRROWW! = Anger or pain. e.g. "You just stepped on my tail you oaf!"

  • Hiss = Aggression e.g. "Go away!" Or "Don't mess with me or I'll totally claw your face off!" Hissing is used cat-to-cat as is growling as well as to humans.

  • BRRRUPP! = "Excuse me, coming through!"

  • PRRRIP! = General happy noise

  • Chirping/Chittering = Mild frustration e.g. "I can't reach it (the prey/toy)"

  • Multiple "Yowl!" Sounds = "I'm in heat"

  • Low-pitched growl = "This food/toy/blanket/whatever is MINE, don't come near!"

From how you describe it I think this is likely a plea for fuss or attention, and as @Mick mentions in his comment you probably want to consider carefully before going ahead as the cat may be looking to bond with you and if you aren't prepared to reciprocate then it may be inadvisable to encourage her.

Vocalisations do vary from cat to cat, some don't even "talk" at all. The nuances of an individual cats "speech" are something that an owner gets used to over time. That said there is substantial overlap across many cats in general terms and the list here is intended as a rough starting point for people like the OP who don't have any history with the cat they are trying to understand, it's not always going to be right but it's better than nothing.

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    Looks like you're well on your way to the 'cat-translator'! Do you have any sources for these? I'd be interested to read more about it.
    – Henders
    Commented Nov 17, 2017 at 12:19
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    – user6796
    Commented Nov 18, 2017 at 23:39
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    As a now moved comment requested, please add some citations. This appears to be based on anecdotal evidence only. (@Soundfx4 It probably won't be deleted later unless the thread gets out of hand again. ;) )
    – jpmc26
    Commented Nov 19, 2017 at 8:12
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    @jpmc26 I've added a reference to support the cat's only meowing to humans info. The "vocab" sections come mostly from a guide I read some years back but can't re-find plus my own experiences with various cats. Commented Nov 20, 2017 at 9:12
  • Cats definitively meow to each other, when in a standoff: youtu.be/K2MYNnlZ9Gg?t=1m (my cat has done this quite a bit, any time another cat comes by her territory) Commented Nov 20, 2017 at 12:27

The gist of the question is how to infer what a cat is asking for.

Generally, I make myself available to the cat. Acknowledge their meow, make eye contact, stand in front of them, and wait for the cat to explain what it wants.

That seems to generally work. From experience, cats understand your silent attention as not knowing what to do. Usually, I'll get an indication of what they want in absence of a response from me.

If the cat wants affection, they'll approach you for it.

If they want food, they might start interacting with your hands (where the food comes from, according to them).

If the cat doesn't respond, gently step towards it. The idea is that if it wants you to follow (e.g. my cat brings me to the couch if he wants to sleep on my lap), the cat will start leading you once you move towards it.

It's not impossible that they simply want attention. My cat has a habit of meowing when he's next to me and I'm playing a game; but he stops once I look at him (and might even refuse petting). Sometimes, he just wants to be looked at.

It's also possible that the cat is simply greeting you. Since you don't live together, it's possible that it knows to maintain a friendship with you, even if it doesn't currently need anything.
This is similar to why some cats have a tendency to stay close to you, even if not interacting with you. Our cats always sleep near me, and if I move to a different room, so do they (yet they keep their distance because they want to sleep).

Lastly, if the cat was previously domesticated, it's possible that they're asking to stay with you. Our youngest one was a street cat, who was way too young (4 months) to be out on his own (and from experience, he never got enough time with his mom to begin with).
He approached my girlfriend and meowed to her on the street. Softhearted as she is, she picked him up and walked home with him (with no struggling from him whatsoever). He was incredibly friendly and let us handle him any way we wanted to. It's clear that he had been a pet at one point (knowing about the litterbox etc), so we surmise that he was being especially nice in order to be allowed to stay with us.

In general, if the cat wants something from you, it's up to the cat to explain what it wants. Make it clear that you're listening to its request, and allow for it to figure out how to communicate what it already knows it wants.

If you feel like the message isn't getting across, try doing things and see if the cat engages you.

  • If you think it wants to be pet, extend your hand and see is they eagerly look at your hand.
  • If you think it's food related, bring some food.
  • If you think it was just a simple "hello", divert your attention to something else, turn away, and see if you get another meow.
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Neither us nor you know what the cat wants. All you can do is interact with it and get it to reveal its intentions to you.

  • "Acknowledge their meow, make eye contact..." does eye contact not convey aggression between unfamiliar individuals in cats, as it does in many other species?
    – drmuelr
    Commented Nov 21, 2017 at 6:04
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    @drmuelr: If the cat is meowing, it wants attention. It would be really confusing for a cat to ask for attention and then get upset that you look at it (don't go stare into their eyes like a madman, of course :)). Also, consider hows cats communicate among themselves. They can't use words, and meows are limited in meaning. A lot of what they do revolves around eye contact, observing the other party, and making an assumption about what the other party wants (unless it's blatantly obvious of course). By observing them, you suggest to them that you're still trying to figure out what they want.
    – Flater
    Commented Nov 21, 2017 at 8:03

Feral cats don't meow at people, as a rule. I have cared for some ferals that eventually meowed at me after years of consistent feeding (I have a managed, TNR-ed colony).

Your visiting cat has had contact with people at some point. Its shyness indicates that some of that contact has been negative/abusive/scary, or else the cat has been on its own for so long that its "wild" instincts have resurfaced to help it survive.

The fact that its meowing at you indicates that it trusts you. Long ago memories of having a home may have resurfaced. It may be lonely. It may be desperate for you to adopt it. Other than that, the cat may have a medical condition (pain, dementia, urinary blockage, injury, etc) that needs attention and it is begging you for help.

The long and short of it is, the cat has bonded with you.


It's hard to translate an unfamiliar cat's vocalizations. They tend to develop a "meow-language" with their human companions over time, but this can vary quite a bit between cats. My wife used to have a cat that made a certain sound to say "where is everybody?" after waking up from a long nap, and our current cat makes the exact same sound to say "enough with the petting, you're starting to annoy me now". Obvious vocalizations (growling, etc) aside, it's hard to decipher a cat's vocalizations unless you've been around them for a while.

Instead of trying to understand vocalizations, I've found much better results in learning to speak tail. Tail language seems to be much more uniform across cats. When I encounter an unfamiliar cat, I'll interpret any vocalizations as simply an attempt to get my attention and then focus on body language for the rest.


If she is meowing to you then she must be used to humans, i.e. not feral. Adult cats don't meow to each other, only to humans after they learn that it gets a response. Unfortunately there is no simple way to determine exactly what she wants - it may just be some fuss and a massage, it may be she wants a home.

Best thing to do is find out if she already has an owner and is just looking for even more cuddles and territory to reign over, or if she is distressed.

Depending on where you live she may have a microchip. Cat charities and vets will have the equipment to read the chip and determine who the owner is.

You could also try a temporary collar to see if she is really ownerless. Some charities can supply them, or you may be able to buy them somewhere. They are made of strong paper. You write your details on them, asking the owner to contact you. If nothing happens in a few days you could consider adopting her or asking a charity to look after her.


Congrats! You have managed to start some strong bonding here... Cats in the wild usually do not meow much - it is something mainly happening between mother and kids - but for house cats it also happens between cats and owners (or slaves as the cat probably thinks)... It trusts you and wants attention of some kind, maybe as easy as food or maybe it just wants to tell you it is around - or it feels for some other kind of attention. That it is meowing to you is for me a strong indicator that it is used to live with people.

Bjarne O. Braastad at the Norwegian Agricultural University has done a lot of research on cat behaviour, he has written a very good popular science book, but I think it is only available in Norwegian ."Katten, adferd og velferd" - Bjarne O. Braastad, "The Cat - behaviour and welfare" It is a great book, a pity (if) it has not been translated.


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