A couple days ago, I adopted a cat from a lady off Craigslist. We went to go pick her up, and everything seemed fine. Now that she's home, I'm worried. She hasn't eaten, had water, or used the potty in over 24 hours. I know it might take some time for her to get used to us, but she hasn't warmed up at all. She is always hiding. She spent the entire night wedged between the bed and the wall. When I got home from work, she was hiding under the pantry and was too scared to leave that she peed herself. I gave her a bath and she's hiding again.

She hasn't come out to explore the house at all. I'm extremely worried. The hiding doesn't worry me as much as not eating. When she isn't hiding (when we pull her out, we don't do it often), the only way to keep her calm is to wrap her up in a blanket, and she is so scared she shakes the entire time. If she isn't hiding, she's always looking around the room like there's a murderer looking for her or something.

She isn't too skinny and she's got a great coat. I haven't noticed any injuries on her, so she seems healthy enough but I just don't know how to help her. I know giving her space will help some, but she hasn't eaten in over 24 hours and that worries me. I even bought her some wet food and she didn't show the least amount of interest in it.

She's only a year old, and the lady we got her from seemed to be a good person, but she did tell me Luna (the cat) lived mostly in her bedroom with 5 other cats so maybe that's the issue. I just need to know how to help her. We've only had her a couple days so I'm obviously going to give it more time but she needs to eat!

Picture of Luna the cat

  • Do you have any other pets? Have you been keeping her in one room, or free to roam the entire house?
    – user812786
    Jan 17, 2017 at 13:26
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    Also - have you taken to her the vet yet? Not eating, drinking, or using the bathroom could be a sign of illness, I'd take her in ASAP (any new pet should have a wellness check anyways).
    – user812786
    Jan 17, 2017 at 14:56

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There is a lot to unpack here. First off, cats are creaatures of habit and territorial as well as social. So moving to another location is always very stressful and can cause illness as stress is obviously not that great for the immune system. This young Lady now is in unfamiliar territory and there are no friends there - not saying you aren't friendly, but she doesn't know that yet, to her she has no one to communicate and huddle with for comfort.

Ideal situation is that you adopt a cat, give her a quiet room (yes, only one) to stay in until she eats & uses the toilet and then start making friendly contact.

Not eating or drinking for cats is dangerous, but I would wait with a vet visit as thats even more stress and won't help right now unless there are actual symptoms (eye discharge, sneezing, vomiting etc. - and yes not eating is usually a symptom as well but not immediately after moving territories).

I do have to say: please stop pulling her out of her hiding spot, wrapping her in a blanket or anything like that. It takes any sense of safety she had in her hidey hole away from her. It might very well be that she was shaking in your arms because she thought you were going to hurt her.

That being said, lets look forward instead of back :) So, the plan!

  • Confine her to one room. Preferably it should be the one she is already in right now, but if that room is very well frequented all day, do move her only this one more time.
  • In that room, offer her some boxes or blanket-caves/forts that she can hide in. Never reach into these hiding places. They are basically sacred for now :)
  • Put a cat banquet into the room. This means loads of bowls (use soup plates if you don't have enough) with wet food, dry food, wet food with sauce, lactose-free milk, maybe some raw fish or chicken, cooked chicken (no bones, only a pinch of salt in the broth), cream, dreamies, anything you can think of. This is because yes, she has to eat, after three days of not eating aything a cat's organs start to deteriorate. So it doesn't matter if what she eats is crap, you can always get her used to some good wet food (at most 5% of grain/rice/potatoes/whatnot as thats just filler, rest should be meat and good entrails so not too much lung or udder tissue for example).
  • Leave her completely alone. This is hard, I know. All you want to do is soothe her, show her you are a great person :) Unfortunately, that usually does the opposite, confirming for the cat that something has to be wrong if the big people also seem all worried and odd. Give her time. Only enter the room for the food, at most three times a day.
  • Whenever you enter the room, don't stare as that can be perceived as an agressive warning. Just ignore her, maybe talk to yourself in a happy voice, just about what you're doing or whatever comes to mind. If she is out of her hiding spot, slowly blink at her if you want, but do not go towards her or stretch your hand out or anything. We want her to focus on calming down and food right now, not on you.

In the meantime, you can busy yourself and look up a bit about how to 'properly' (sounds weird, I know) pet a cat and how to read cat body language. Most cats for example are annoyed when we just pet them without 'asking' first. Asking in this case means holding out your hand and the cat rubs against it, incidentally also showing you how you should continue petting her. :)

And, as a last but still very important thing: This cat has lived together with other cats, she is social, cats are social beings in general. Please consider adopting another cat of the same age, gender and activity level&play behavior&character. (This after she has adjusted to you, maybe a month or so) Look into slow introductions of cats with protective gates etc.

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    Disagree in the specific diet recommendations, but other than that I agree. Give her time to decide her new environment is safe, and let her come to you when she is ready to check you out. My cats spent most of their first month under the guest bed (I think), and then took another month deciding that it was OK for me to let them; now, several years later, Zi have trouble keeping them off me when I need to work. Patience is essential when dealing with felines.
    – keshlam
    Jan 18, 2017 at 14:16

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