Until 6 months ago, my husband and I had 2 cats we rescued from the local Humane Society. One was larger that the other and loved sleeping with us. If the smaller cat jumped up on the bed and saw the larger cat there, she would turn around and jump back down. They did get along great, played with each other and cleaned/groomed each other.

6 months ago, the larger of the two passed away from cancer. The smaller one now sleeps with us and seems to be really coming out of her shell and becoming more and more affectionate. My dilemma is that I have been asked to adopt a 6 year old, neutered and friendly, from what I am told, because the owner is having health issues and does not want his cat to go to the HS if something happens to him.

My hesitation is that our cat is finally becoming confident and I am afraid that if I bring in a large male cat into our home, she will revert to her previous behavior.

She is not a bad cat, but I have enjoyed her becoming friendlier and I don't want that to change. And, since I work long days, I don't want to come home and find that they have fought or the newer cat will have torn up the house.


  • There are past answers here about strategies for introducing cats with minimal friction. What do you want to know that those don't answer? (There are also some excellent demonstrations of the usual approach on YouTube, spanning the extended period this can take.)
    – keshlam
    Commented Jan 9, 2017 at 1:08

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Worse thing you can do is to bring the new, older, cat into your house. After a month or so if you want a cat friend for your cat, get the opposite sex and younger.

  • This is actually what the OP is doing. The 12 yo is a female already in the home, the 6 yo is a male, younger cat. So your answer says it's a bad thing to do, and you should instead do this...except the this is what the OP is doing...
    – CGCampbell
    Commented Jan 15, 2017 at 15:05

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